Tools for the Self Directed Life

Signs You Are Consciously Living

by Calvin Harris H. W., M.

 

Every moment of every day, we can strive to be vibrant, our best, and most loving to ourselves and others

 

Yes, we at Site of Contact want you to care about your success (whatever success may mean to you), we encourage your learning, your progress, your training (at whatever level is best for you) and we want you to realize the potential within you. BUT your success focus should not be to the extent that it sacrifices your sense of well-being, balance and happiness because compulsions are driving you.

 

 A sign of balance disruption is energy displacement. Stated differently, how the connection between muscular tension in the body causes bodily malfunction or non-functions. This can range from a simply feeling of out of sorts, to bad behavior, all the way to chronic illness. This somatic malfunction of the nervous systems is caused in part due to where conscious attention or lack of it is focused.

 

The nervous system is approximately 85% a visceral, non-thinking, non-conscious intelligence of our bodies. It regulates breathing for us or does digestion, or waste removal, (to name a few of its function). Yet to be complete, that is somatically whole in its effectiveness, we need to be consciously grounded. In computer terms, I am suggesting that our 3-dimensional Beingness runs as a hybrid data system of Body and Mind. The beauty of it is when the simplicity of physical functions running at its best are properly integrated with components of Conscious awareness.

 

Your internal and external data sources are more aligned as a hybrid operating system than you suspect. It enables seamless access, sharing and analysis of all types of perceived data, followed by combinations of action deployment based on memory tapes running and updating all the time. Its reliability is based on upgrades to its storage units. This hybrid combination allows for the storage unit to gain insights like understanding your reactions in social situations that may be random or different than what was experienced in the past and allows for alternative outcomes such as empathy followed by supportive social engagement rather than anger and rage.

  

This Hybrid integration of Somatic data management simply stated is your capability to engage with your world in a range of new situations that goes beyond your historic way of doing things, that yield to you new insights and vitality in life - you could call it a joy of living.

 

With that in mind, siteofcontact.net. suggest this simple philosophy: To create understanding in all of your relationships, start first with yourself.

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A key tool to begin this process, is to keep a journal: It could be electronic or handwritten, that's your choice. What it should entail is data, call it your reflection upon issues, emotions, situations that will show you signs of where you concentrate your energy and that could signal for you areas where displacement energy is being put.

 

Additionally, journaling can help you discover the fun or humor in the strangest of circumstances, even in the mundane tasks you come across daily. So, if you are going to be driven, decide to be driven by your potential for awareness in control of habits and active choices that you choose to internalize

 

Your Journal can be a resource and a benefit when:

  • You take time to reflect and review your activities, in such a way to allow your brain the chance to assemble and create order amidst what appears as chaos.

 

  •   You can gain insights parlayed into new habits, learned from observations and your experiences.

 

  • You can be less reactive, and more proactive in response that is more positive and self-confident though your discoveries and insights.

 

You could call this process of writing a type of “wet computer (brain) download”.

 

A suggestion, if this is a first-time journaling experience for you, then pick a time to do it when there are few if any distractions, and it is not a hectic nor stressful time of day. Some like to do it in the evening, when their reflections and insights seem to cleanse and empty their heads before bed. Others make time for reflection in the morning, as a way of cleaning their slate in preparation for a clearer sense of direction in their day.

 

As a bonus one builds a stronger relationship with oneself, without outside judgment or opinions to screen or hide one from their essential core. Some claim that improvements increase when one can find and practice gratitude for what they have discovered as a positive element or configuration in their life.

 

What I find helpful for beginners is for them not to try and use it as a grocery list of events that happened that day. But do journal on a regular basis. Look for what you consider to be relevant: situations that stand out, or are decisive, or momentous, or where you caught yourself in repetitious non-beneficial behaviors or thoughts; or where you are critical or pressing; notations of events having far-reaching effects, or that things have become urgent

 

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You may find it helpful not to use journal pages that have preprinted calendar date pages: This eliminates you from pressures to have to write daily. Instead, you have the freedom and leisure to write when you choose. Like everything else it takes practice to create good habits. Journaling will take finding and instituting a new routine or habit for yourself that incorporates consistent times and place for journaling that gives you a sense of accomplishment and success.

 

The important thing is to have fun journaling and with what you discover about Living Consciously. Benefits may show up as:




More observing Less judging

More responding Less reaction

More clarity Less self -sabotage

More engaged Less restriction

More self-Love Less fear

More boundaries Less other’s chaos

More trust Less resentment

More inner peace Less dung




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What changes is consciously not having the compulsions and reactions to people and things. Journaling becomes a means of reflection, rest, and recovery. When the progress made with journaling becomes knowing your essential self, that then enables supportive constructive social engagement with others.

 

Having an ongoing relationship with yourself creates an alignment with life. Remember life is about balance, being content, but never to stop growing, and learning. It's about fulfilling the need to add fun and discovery into each day along the way.

More advance techniques and practices are available through the Prosperos School of Ontology, email me Calvin at ialchemy1@gmail.com, for more details or if you have questions.

I close with a favorite quote from a character in the book ‘Auntie Mame’ by Patrick Dennis who says, "Live, Live, Live! Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death!" 

Aloha

Calvin











Urge for Adventure October 2019

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Hey Guys,
With the month of October, autumn moves into gear. You may find yourself donning a sweater to enjoy the season’s bounty. October is not a month to be out done by any other. October is off the charts with festivals and socials offerings. Bringing you new and creative ways to engage with old and new friends.

Engaging in activities this month might help you look deeper within yourself, finding something about you, you did not know before. It is all the more reason for you to relish this month.




OCTOBER 2019 MONTH-LONG EVENTS:

ADHD Awareness Month

Adopt a Shelter Dog Month

American Pharmacist Month

Awareness Month

Awareness Month

Bullying Prevention Month

Breast Cancer Awareness Month

Clergy Appreciation Month

Computer Learning Month

Cookie Month

Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Eat Country Ham Month

Global Diversity Awareness Month

International Dinosaur Month

International Drum Month

Learning Disabilities Awareness Month

National Book Month

National Diabetes Month

National Ergonomics Month

National Fair-Trade Month   

National Pizza Month

National Seafood Month

National Vegetarian Month

National Popcorn Popping Month

OCTOBER WEEK OR MULTI DAY EVENTS: 


Week 1 Customer Service Week

Week 1. Get Organized Week

Week 1. Great Books and Mystery Series Week

Week 1. Financial Planning Week

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World Space Week - October 4 – 10

Week 2. Earth Science Week

Week 2 Fire Prevention Week

Week 2. National Metric Week

Week 2. Pet Peeve Week

Week 2. Teen Read Week

Yom Kippur Days -  Oct. 08 - 09

Earth Sciences Week – Oct. 13 – 19

Sukkot Week Oct.13 - 20

46th Annual Old Farmer's Day Oct 26 & 27

Chemistry Week -  October 20 – 26

Week 3 Pastoral Care Week

OCTOBER 2019 SPECIAL FUN DAY EVENTS:



Oct 1       Tue         Balloons Around the World Day

Oct 1       Tue         International Coffee Day

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Oct 1       Tue         International Music Day

Oct 1       Tue         International Older Persons Day

Oct 1       Tue         National Book Day

Oct 1       Tue         National Homemade Cookies Day

Oct 1       Tue         World Vegetarian Cooking  Day

 

 Oct 2       Wed        National Custodial Worker Day

Oct 2       Wed        National Kale Day

Oct 2       Wed        National Pumpkin Seed Day

Oct 2       Wed        Name Your Car Day








Oct 3       Thu         National Boyfriends Day

Oct 3       Thu         National Techies Day

Oct 3       Thu         Virus Appreciation Day

 

Oct 4       Fri           Ten-Four Day

Oct 4       Fri           Body Language Day

Oct 4       Fri           Improve Your Office Day

Oct 4       Fri           Manufacturing Day

Oct 4       Fri           National Cinnamon Roll Day

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Oct 4       Fri           National Diversity Day

Oct 4       Fri           National Golf Day

Oct 4       Fri           National Vodka Day

Oct 4       Fri           National Taco Day

Oct 4       Fri           World Animal Day

Oct 4       Fri           World Smile Day






Oct 5       Sat          Astronomy Day Fall

Oct 5       Sat          Do Something Nice Day

Oct 5       Sat          Int’l Frugal Fun Day

Oct 5       Sat          World Card Making Day

Oct 5       Sat          World Teacher's Day

 

Oct 6       Sun         Change a Light Day

Oct 6       Sun         German-American Day

Oct 6       Sun         Mad Hatter Day

Oct 6       Sun         National Noodle Day

Oct 6       Sun         Physician Assistant Day






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Oct 7       Mon         Bathtub Day

Oct 7       Mon        Chocolate-Covered Pretzel Day

Oct 7       Mon        National Frappe Day

Oct 7       Mon        National Inner Beauty Day

Oct 7       Mon        National LED Light Day

Oct 7       Mon        World Bullying Prevention Day

Oct 7       Mon        World Day of Architecture

Oct 7       Mon        World Habitat Day

Oct 7       Mon        You Matter To Me Day

 

Oct 8       Tue         American Touch Tag Day

Oct 8       Tue         Pierogi Day

 

Oct 9       Wed        Curious Events Day

Oct 9       Wed        Emergency Nurses Day

Oct 9       Wed        Fire Prevention Day

Oct 9       Wed        International Beer & Pizza Day

Oct 9       Wed        Leif Erikson Day

Oct 9       Wed        Moldy Cheese Day

Oct 9       Wed        World Mail  Post Day

 

 Oct 10     Thu         Int’l Day of  Natural Disaster Reduction

Oct 10     Thu         Int’l Newspaper Carrier Day

Oct 10     Thu         National Angel Food Cake Day

Oct 10     Thu         National Handbag Day

Oct 10     Thu         National Metric Day

Oct 10     Thu         World Mental Health  Aware Day

Oct 10     Thu         World Homeless Awareness Day





Oct 11     Fri           National Coming Out Day

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Oct 11     Fri           National It's My Party Day

Oct 11     Fri           Southern Food Heritage Day

Oct 11     Fri           World Egg Day

 


Oct 12     Sat          Int’l Moment of Frustration Day

Oct 12     Sat          National Chess Day

Oct 12     Sat          National Gumbo Day

Oct 12     Sat          National Free Thought Day

Oct 12     Sat          Nat’l Motorcycle Ride Day

Oct 12     Sat          Universal Music Day

 

Oct 13     Sun         Silly Sayings Day

Oct 13     Sun         International Skeptics Day




Oct 14     Mon        National  Be Bald & Free Day

Oct 14     Mon        National Pickle Day

Oct 14     Mon        Columbus or Indigenous Peoples Day

Oct 14     Mon        National Dessert Day

Oct 14     Mon        World Standards Day

 

Oct  15    Tue         Int’l  Day of Rural Women

Oct  15    Tue         Love Lucy Day

Oct  15    Tue         National Face Your Fears Day

Oct  15    Tue         Nat’l Pharmacy Technician Day

Oct  15    Tue         National White Cane Safety Day

 

Oct 16     Wed        National Bosses Day

Oct 16     Wed        National Dictionary Day

Oct 16     Wed        Nat’l Feral Cat Aware Day

Oct 16     Wed         National Fossil Day

Oct 16     Wed         Nat’l  Local Chamber of Commerce Day

Oct 16     Wed        Nat’l Take Your Parents to Lunch



Oct 17     Thu         Conflict Resolution Day

Oct 17     Thu         Get to Know Your Customers

Oct 17     Thu         Int’l Credit Union Day

Oct 17     Thu         Int’l Day for Eradication of Poverty

Oct 17     Thu         National Black Poetry Day

Oct 17     Thu         National Pasta Day

Oct 17     Thu         National Spirit Day

Oct 17     Thu         Wear Something Gaudy Day

 

Oct 18     Fri           National Chocolate Cupcake Day

Oct  18    Fri           National No Beard Day

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Oct  18    Fri           Newspaper Comic Strip Day

 

Oct 19     Sat          Evaluate Your Life Day

Oct 19     Sat          Sweets for My Sweetie’s  Day

 

Oct 20     Sun         Brandied Fruit Day

Oct 20     Sun         Information Overload Day 

Oct 20     Sun         International Sloth Day

 

Oct 21     Mon        Babbling Day

Oct 21     Mon        Count Your Buttons Day

Oct 21     Mon        Nat’l Clean You Virtual Desktop Day

Oct 21     Mon        National Pumpkin Cheesecake Day

 

Oct 22     Tue         Caps Lock Day

Oct 22     Tue         National Nut Day

 

Oct 23     Wed        Medical Assistants Day

Oct 23     Wed        National Mole Day

Oct 23     Wed        Nat’l  TV Talk Show Host Day

 

Oct 24     Thu         National Bologna Day

Oct 24     Thu         United Nations Day

Oct 24     Thu         World Development Information Day

 

Oct 25     Fri           Cranky Co-workers Day

Oct 25     Fri           International Artists Day

Oct 25     Fri           Frankenstein Friday

Oct 25     Fri           International Bandana Day

Oct 25     Fri           Sourest Day

Oct 25     Fri           World Pasta Day         

 

Oct 26     Sat          Howl at the Moon

Oct 26     Sat          Make a Difference Day

Oct 26     Sat          National Mincemeat Day

Oct 26     Sat          National Pit Bull Awareness Day

Oct 26     Sat          National Pumpkin Day

 

Oct 27     Sun         National American Beer Day

Oct 27     Sun         National Black Cat Day

Oct 27     Sun         National Mother-In-Law Day

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Oct 27     Sun         Tell A Story Day - Scotland and U.K.

Oct 27     Sun         United States Navy Day

Oct 27     Sun         World Audio-Visual Heritage Day

 

 

Oct 28     Mon         International Animation Day

Oct 28     Mon        National Chocolate Day

 

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Oct 29     Tue         National Cat Day

Oct 29     Tue         National Hermit Day

Oct 29     Tue         National Internet Day

 

   Oct 30     Wed        Haunted Refrigerator Night

Oct 30     Wed        Mischief Night

Oct 30     Wed        National Candy Corn Day

Oct 30     Wed        National Checklist Day

Oct 30     Wed        World Audio Drama Day

 

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Photo Artist Jason Beamguard and his Models


 Oct 31     Thu         All Hallows' Eve or Halloween

Oct 31     Thu         Carve a Pumpkin Day

Oct 31     Thu         Girl Scout Founder’s Day

Oct 31     Thu         Increase Your Psychic Powers Day

Oct 31     Thu         National Magic Day




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Oct 31 Thu UNICEF Day

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Self Care Making Time For You

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Making an ally and friend of yourself unlocks a state of well-being.

 

If you have an ally, that is someone on your side. Ally comes from the Latin word alligare, meaning "to bind to," — an act of coming together, a protection of one.

 

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Yet, as a Life Coach, I find there are those who rather than being an ally to themselves,  are instead their own worst enemy. Most of the time they are unconscious of doing it to themselves until they have come undone. Often it is unconscious, the shadow side of themselves and acting without knowledge of what one really wants to accomplish. I am reminded of the quote: “The most reliable friend you have is your shadow.” – Matshona Dhliwayo

 

It comes later, as a revelation to them, to discover that self-awareness must be a key component for well-being and therefore success. To have success is to have communication with yourself. In other words, you are always in a relationship with yourself, the question is what kind is it?  Not to sound weird, but this relationship with yourself should be arguably one of the most important relationships that you have.

 

This Self-relationship is a foundation for everything else. Having said that, this self-relationship is not to be confused with negative compulsions of narcissism, nor on the other hand with overwhelming blame and shame about ourselves, rather it should identify traits that focus our being in a good place, to organize our self so that things happen in effective ways that allow for good interpersonal skills, and as a byproduct, produces success according to the individual’s own definition of success.

 

In other words, for you to focus on yourself in such a way to produce crucial development for a healthy sense of self. It is about gaining knowledge and having an understanding of how you operate and liking what you see in that process.

This establishes a baseline for you from which to work that can extend beyond yourself to others in ways that are altruistic and advantageous to all.

 

 This is going to take being a good friend to yourself first, by  developing and sustaining your relationship with the self.

 

One way to start, is by checking out how you speak to yourself. Remember everything you say you hear as well. No matter if talking to a room full of people or by yourself. This would include not only the words you say out loud but also the words you think. Words have an emotional imprint. Check yourself to see if you tend to speak harshly to yourself (either in your spoken voice or in your thinking voice).

 

If you catch yourself negatively impacting yourself with your self-talk, find a way to stop and observe. Try and see the emotional atmosphere you find yourself in — is there anger or agitation, is your heart rate up, are the words criticizing? Take a breath, slow it down and consciously reappraise the situation, in an effort to be gentler with yourself before continuing with any more outward action.

 

reappraise the situation,  in an effort to be gentler with yourself before continuing with any more outward action.  

 

Some life coaching clients find it helpful to practice conversations out loud with themselves— under the right conditions, doing so can be very useful. By consciously  using  the thoughts you’ve assembled  you have the capacity to unearth feelings buried within the words  to make possible clear differences in your discourse of what is advantageous and that which does not promote or contribute to personal or social well-being.

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That said, know that it takes time to develop a new habit. It will require your desire and your motivation to build this skill.

 

Journaling is another good practice to capture, record reactions, and keep track of your progress with self-talk. It is a place to start getting to know more about you. Journaling as a habit becomes an invaluable way to acquaint oneself with and to change personal experiences for the better.

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Journaling seems easier to accomplish if you will begin by setting small manageable goals, such as writing for just 15 minutes a day. Once in the routine, beginners will gain a new slant or perspective on their behaviors, while for seasoned chroniclers these insights provide motivation to continue.

You are in essence creating a new habit, one that by sticking to it keeps you conscious of and befriending yourself.

 

 In the beginning, as I mention, it may require some effort. Fortunately, if you keep at it and can eventually practice it daily, the process will become easier for you and eventually become an automatic part of your daily routine

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Calvin’s Learning Circle’s

 More on Journaling in upcoming articles. For my readers asking for deeper work, may I suggest a small group or one on one session that can be arranged with me? In addition, The Prosperos School of Ontology offers two seminars that are extremely useful: Translation and Releasing the Hidden Splendor. The classes offer tools for reaching change, a change in consciousness, not a change in “things.” You can contact me at my email address for more information about these classes, small group activities, or one on one mentoring services by going to the Contact Page.

 

Let me conclude with these words:

 “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” – Mahatma Gandhi

 

Thanks for reading

Calvin

Urge for Adventure September 2019

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HEY GUYS,

 Its September, September is the ninth month of the year. Yep, eight months of this year has passed. Here in the Northern Hemisphere, it signals the beginning of autumn, and I am sure for a number of you it means focus on refocusing your energies on projects or situations that you want to resolve or complete this year.  Words come to mind like New Month…New Mindset… New focus… New start… New Intention. New results.

September offers some choices of events for you to engage in for fun, or learning / self-improvement, or even for a bit of outrageousness. Look in our daily calendar of events that will follow. If for nothing else, it will give you some great conversation starting material beyond politics.

After Perusing the September calendar pages below. Check out Current or Pass Blogs pages by navigating the tabs at the top of each page. Find Items to reset your perspective or just enjoy the pictures.

From time to time this July, stop and ponder the words of Peter Marshall when he said: “May we think of Freedom, not as the right to do as we please, but as the opportunity to do what is right.”

 

 

Month Long Events:

Animal Pain Awareness Month

Better Breakfast Month

Children's Health and Safety Awareness Month

Chicken Month

Cholesterol Awareness Month

Classical Music Month

Healthy Aging Month

Hispanic Heritage Month

Honey Month

Intergeneration Month    

International Square-Dancing Month

Little League Month

Leukemia and Lymphoma Awareness Month

Men & Fall Hat Month              

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National Campus Safety Month

National Courtesy Month

National Food Safety Month

National Learning & Development Month

National Piano Month

National Preparedness Month                   

National Papaya Month                     

National Peripheral Artery Disease Awareness

National Sewing Month

National Suicide Prevention Month Health               

National Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome Awareness Month     

Self-Improvement Month                            

Sexual Health Month

Sickle Cell Awareness Month                    

World Alzheimer's Month

 

Weekly  or Multi Day Events:

National Waffle Week – September 1 - 8, 2019

National Assisted Living Week - September 8 - 15, 2019

National , Environmental Services Week - September 8 - 15, 2019

National Healthcare Week - September 8 - 15, 2019

Nephrology Nurses Week September 8 - 15, 2019   

National Housekeeper Appreciation Week- September 8 - 15, 2019

International European Heritage Days – September 10 - 21, 2019

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National Indoor Plant Week -  September 15 -21, 2019

National Eczema Week-  September 15 -22, 2019                        

National Surgical Technologists Week-  September 15 -21, 2019

National Hispanic Heritage Month Sept 15 ends Oct 15, 2019

National   Balance Awareness Week-  September 16 -23, 2019

National Rehabilitation Awareness Week-  September 16 -23, 2019

Oktoberfest, German festive September 21–28, 2019

Active Aging Week  Health September 22–29, 2019

Child Passenger Safety Awareness Week September 23-30, 2019    

Deaf Dog Awareness Week September 24–30, 2019

 

 

SEPTEMBER 2019 Daily Special and Wacky Days:

 

Sep 01     Sun         American Chess Day

Sep 01     Sun         Emma M. Nutt Day

Sep 01     Sun         National Cherry Popover Day

Sep 01     Sun          Onam  Indian  Religious Holidays

 

Sep 02       Mon          Ganesh Chaturthi Hindu, Religious Holidays

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Sep 02       Mon           Labor Day First Monday of month

Sep 02       Mon           VJ Day, WWII

Sep 02       Mon           World Coconut Food & Beverage Day

 

Sep 03       Tue            National Skyscraper Day

Sep 03       Tue            Telephone Tuesday Shopping Day 

 

Sep 04     Wed            National Wildlife Day

Sep 04     Wed            Newspaper Carrier Day

 

Sep 05       Thu            Be Late for Something Day

Sep 05       Thu            International Day of Charity

Sep 05       Thu            Cheese Pizza Day

 

Sep 06       Fri             National 401(k) Day

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Sep 06       Fri             National Read a Book Day

F Sep 06    Fri             Fight Procrastination Day

 

Sep 07       Sat              Brazil Independence Day

Sep 07       Sat             National Beer Lover's Day

Sep 07       Sat             National Salami Day

Sep 07       Sat             Neither Rain nor Snow Day

 

Sep 08       Sun           Grandparent's Day

Sep 08       Sun           International Literacy Day

Sep 08       Sun           National Date Nut Bread Day

Sep 08       Sun           National Pet Memorial Day

 Sep 08      Sun          Pardon Day

 

Sep 09       Mon          Ashurah   Islamic/ Jewish Holiday

Sep 09       Mon          Teddy Bear Day

Sep 09       Mon          International Sudoku Day                 

Sep 09       Mon          National Wiener Schnitzel Day

 

Sep 10       Tue            World Suicide Prevention Day

Sep 10       Tue            Swap Ideas Day

 

Sep 11       Wed          National 911 Day  Service & Remembrance

Sep 11       Wed          National Make Your Bed Day

Sep 11       Wed          No News is Good News Day

 

Sep 12       Thu            Chocolate Milk Shake Day

Sep 12       Thu            National Video Games Day

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Sep   13     Fri              Defy Superstition Day

Sep   13     Fri              Fortune Cookie Day

Sep   13     Fri              Blame Someone Else Day - 1st  Fri, 13th of Yr.

Sep   13     Fri              Chinese Mid-Autumn Moon Festival

Sep   13     Fri              Friday the 13th

Sep   13     Fri              National Peanut Day

Sep   13     Fri              Pitru Paksha Hindu, Religious Holidays

 Sep  13     Fri              Positive Thinking Day

Sep   13     Fri              Uncle Sam Day

         

Sep   14     Sat             International Crab Fest Day

Sep   14     Sat             International German Language Day               

Sep   14     Sat             International Stuttering Awareness Day

Sep   14     Sat             National Cream-Filled Donut Day

Sep   14     Sat             National Coloring Day

 

Sep   15     Sun            Batman Day

Sep   15     Sun            International Day of Democracy

Sep   15     Sun            Int’l Dot – Family  Relationships Day

Sep   15     Sun            Men Felt Hat Day             

Sep   15     Sun            National Gymnastics Day

Sep   15     Sun            National Linguine Day    

Sep   15     Sun            Shout of Dolores, Mexican Party Day      

Sep   15     Sun            National Women's Friendship Day

Sep   15     Sun            Wife Appreciation Day

 

Sep   16     Mon          American Legion Day

Sep   16     Mon          Collect Rocks Day

Sep   16     Mon          StepFamily Day

Sep   16     Mon          Mayflower Day

Sep   16     Mon          Mexican Independence Day

Sep   16     Mon          National Guacamole Day

Sep   16     Mon          National Play Doh Day

Sep   16     Mon          Working Parents Day

 

Sep   17     Tue            Citizenship Day

Sep   17     Tue            Constitution Day

Sep   17     Tue            International Patient Safety Day

Sep   17     Tue            National Apple Dumpling Day

 

Sep   18     Wed          National Cheeseburger Day

Sep   18     Wed          National First Love Day  Relationships            

Sep   18     Wed          National HIV/AIDS Awareness Day       

 

Sep   19     Thu            International Talk Like A Pirate Day

Sep   19     Thu              National Butterscotch Pudding Day

 

Sep   20     Fri              National Pepperoni Pizza Day

Sep   20     Fri              National Punch Day

 

Sep   21     Sat             International Day of Peace                         

Sep   21     Sat             National Dance Day        

Sep   21     Sat             Miniature Golf Day

Sep   21     Sat             Oktoberfest  begins in Germany-varied dates

Sep   21     Sat             World Gratitude Day

 

Sep   22     Sun            Business Women's Day

Sep   22     Sun            Elephant Appreciation Day

Sep   22     Sun            Falls Prevention Awareness Day

Sep   22     Sun            Hobbit Day     

Sep   22     Sun            National Ice Cream Cone Day

National Singles Day

National Singles Day

Sep   22     Sun            National Singles Day                

Sep   22     Sun            National White Chocolate Day

 

Sep   23     Mon          Autumn Equinox - Fall begins! - date varies

Sep   23     Mon          Meteorologically First Day of Fall

Sep   23     Mon          Checkers Day

Sep   23     Mon          Dog in Politics Day

 

Sep   24     Tue            National Cherries Jubilee Day

Sep   24     Tue            National Voter Registration Day     

         

 

Sep   25     Wed          Heritage Day  

Sep   25     Wed          National Comic Book Day                          

Sep   25     Wed          National Cooking Day              

Sep   25     Wed          National Lobster Day

 

Sep   26     Thu            Johnny Appleseed Day                      

Sep   26     Thu            National Dumpling Day                    

Sep   26     Thu            National Family Day       

Sep   26     Thu            National Pancake Day

 

Sep   27     Fri              Crush a Can Day

Sep   27     Fri              Native American Day

Sep   27     Fri              Pchum Ben -Religious Buddhist Holiday

Sep   27     Fri              World Tourism Day

 

Sep   28     Sat             Ask a Stupid Question Day

Sep   28     Sat             International Rabbit Day

Sep   28     Sat             National Drink Beer Day

Sep   28     Sat             National Good Neighbor Day

Sep   28     Sat             National Hunting and Fishing Day

Sep   28     Sat             National Public Lands Day

 

Sep   29     Sun            Confucius Day

Sep   29     Sun            Family Health & Fitness Day

Sep   29     Sun            Mysore Dasara Religious  Hindu      

Sep   29     Sun            National Coffee Day        

Sep   29     Sun            Navratri   Hindu, Religious Holidays      

Sep   29     Sun            Rosh Hashanah Jewish Holidays    

World Heart Day

World Heart Day

Sep   29     Sun            World Heart Day     

 

Sep   30     Mon          National Love People Day

Sep   30     Mon          National Mud Pack Day

Sep   30     Mon          International Podcast Day

 

Calvin On Learning

How One Student Grows For Self & Others

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Calvin Harris H.W. M.  isn’t simply teaching classes. He is deeply invested in how to better embody its lessons.  He takes to heart these words: “What An Educator Does In Teaching  Is To Make It Possible For The Students to Become Themselves” - quote by the Brazilian educator and philosopher Paulo Reglus Neves Freire known for his work with adult illiterates and for promoting critical pedagogy, a theory, and practice of helping students achieve critical consciousness. Calvin’s learning of Critical Consciousness came from a different path, for as a young person his search for Truth and self-understanding lead him to the teaching and later apprenticeship from Master Teacher Thane Walker, in his School The Prosperos, founded 1956 in Florida and operated in California since the 1960’s

Calvin uncovered his calling or dharma in 1969, in the Prospers, and his ultimate goal is to be able to facilitate change. To help build and sustain a holistic community, organized in a way so one can experience more intensive programs of self-discovery and learning. Calvin says: “My students, I want to give extraordinary experiences, perspectives that they would not be able to experience singularly. Training that is immersive, found in intimate group settings using handpicked subject matter with  unique perspectives, all with the goal of providing a sense of  drawing forth from within, and creating  transformative knowing within the student, in both mind and in spirit.”  

 

This speaks to his teaching trajectory, of offering practices and a way for the teachings to have embodiment. He says: “I love the idea of belonging to a strong community collectively working to become a more aware, insightful, sensuousness, conscious organization. I like to support creating leaders and role models that can extend our community with a positive message. Extending to others the challenge and joy of practices to know thyself.

I like the feel of working with others,  of when I am conversing, eating, drinking, exercising, just moving with conscious intention surrounded by others, all who are doing the work – then I am at home, living my dharma in the core of beingness.” 

A Focus On Living by Calvin

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Empowering Yourself To Begin

 by Calvin Harris, H. W. M.

You’ve  come up with an idea or goal to put into action — whether it’s eating healthier or finding a perfect travel place or  starting a business — Now comes the question, how to begin?

 

In some cases, you can look to someone who is already doing it and then reenact their strategy which can prove useful. Learning from experience is a great way to gain confidence and accelerate your own learning curve. I benefit from such observations myself.

 

But it’s equally important to remember that these habits and systems, are strategies that successful people realized while on their journey to success, what tools they are using today is probably not the same ones they began with.

 

You might want to stay cognizant to their tools and optimal running practices,  they could be unworkable in getting your concept started because  there is a difference between  what is operational and what is a starting point.

 

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Therefore,  just copying their style can erode your confidence in what you are doing if you are not conscious of your present starting situation and resources vs someone  using  a time tested ongoing successful strategy and their resources.

Not paying attention can often make you feel like you lack the required resources to even get started. Especially If you are only looking at their present optimal operation.  You can feel or even convince yourself that you need to buy more things, or learn new skills, or meet more people before you can even take the first step toward your goals, and dollars to donuts, that’s not true.

For examples.

You decide you want to do a  weekend bicycling road trip. You have the proper bike and gear, but you start to notice Johnny De Gearpacker and Mildred the Adventuress,  who have spent a fortune on gear: rainproof  tents, moisture-wicking clothes, special bike tires, and shoes.  Now I’m not saying gear is not important. Great gear can make your travels much easier on the road, but it’s not required. You don’t need new bike shoes to start riding. You don’t need new cooking pots to start eating healthy. And you don’t need a new mountain bike to start weekend travel trips. Those things might be optimal, but they are not needed in the beginning.

You can argue that it’s hard to travel light without the right bike gear, but the truth is you could make it work with what you have now.

 

When starting a business, and having caught the entrepreneurial spirit, one can become obsessed with having “the Best,” in office space and equipment. I came to find out that success could happen with a laptop, cellphone, and a corner of a table at a coffee shop. Yep, that is without great office space and staff.

 

Avoiding starts by demanding the Optimal, is what I have seen in many talented people, with their claiming to need to “learn more” or “get all of their ducks in a row”  before they start. This often becomes a crutch that can prevent you from moving forward on the stuff that actually matters.

 

Obsessing about the Optimal can be a clever way to prevent yourself from doing the hard work or gaining the habits necessary for your success.

 

If you are a regular reader to my blogs, you know, I’m all for optimizing and improvement. Your gains fill me with joy. Altered habits, no matter how small, leave me cheering. Increase levels of consistency make my heart race. But don’t let visions of the Ultimate prevent you from getting started in the first place.

 

A bad start can always be improved, but obsessing over the perfect outcome will never bring you anywhere near your goal on its own. If you want to be happy set about actions that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and moves you towards your goals.

 

Urge for Adventure August 2019

Urge for Adventure August 2019

EVENTS, SELF-DEVELOPMENT, ENGAGE

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August is the best month of summer

June is hectic, what with all those weddings and graduations. July is loud — firecrackers, family reunions — and the humidity is stifling.

 

But August, Ahh, August! For some it is the most perfect month of the summer.  It's high season for  fruits and veggies. Many parts of the country it is a nice break from the thick, sweltering days of July and the rainy days of June. Fewer rainy days means more sunshine, which gives us a good dose of Vitamin D — builder of strong bones and teeth and fabulous hair. Not to mention Good Moods.

 

It is as if by Natures decree,  that We are required to “take it easy” (National Lazy Day is Aug. 10. National Relaxation Day is Aug. 15.)  Go ahead and enjoy a box of  Crayon’s or colored pencils (check out the new adult coloring books).

 

Athletes will be going for their personal best. You can make a splash in the pool and be the star, speaking of Stars. August in the sky are Stars galore as we celebrate the 50th anniversary of man’s walk on the moon

For that reason, check on programs from PBS and tips from NASA on what’s available and when. Or for other fun ideas keep reading.

 

August 2019 Monthly Holidays

 

American Adventures Month

American Artists Appreciation Month

American Indian Heritage Month

Arrr-gust: International Pirate Month

Black Business Month

Boomers making a Difference

Boomers making a Difference

Boomers Making A Difference Month

Bystander Awareness Month

Children's Eye Health & Safety Month

Child Support Awareness Month

Children's Vision & Learning Month

Golf Month

Happiness Happens Month

Motor Sports Awareness Month

National Breastfeeding Month

National Catfish Month

National Crayon Collection Month 

National Goat Cheese Month

National Immunization Awareness Month

National Panini Month 

National Read A Romance Novel Month

National Spinal Muscular Atrophy Awareness Month

National Traffic Awareness Month

National Truancy Prevention Month

National Water Quality Month

National Wellness Month

National Win With Civility Month

Neurosurgery Outreach Month

Psoriasis Awareness Month

Read-A-Romance Month

Rye Month

Tomboy Tools Month

What Will Be Your Legacy Month

World Mutt-i-grees Rescue Month 

 

August 2019  Multi-Day & Weekly Events

 

American History Essay Contest Aug 01 - Dec15

International Clown Week: 1-7

International Mathematicians Week: 1-9

Lollapalooza: 1-4  (Moved from July)

National Cleanse Your Skin Week

National Minority Donor Awareness Week: 1-7

Simplify Your Life Week: 1-7

World Breastfeeding Week: 1-7

Gallop International Tribal Indian Powwow: 2-11

Sturgis Rally: 2-11

Satchmo Days: 2-4 

Assistance Dog Week: 4-10 

Exercise With Your Child Week: 4-10

National Button Week: 4-10 

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National Farmers' Market Week: 4-10 

National Fraud Awareness Week: 4-10

National Health Center Week: 4-10

National Psychic Week: 4-9

Rock for Life Week: 4-7

Single Working Women's Week: 4-10 

Stop on Red Week: 4-10

Exhibitor Appreciation Week: 5-9

National Bargain Hunting Week: 5-11

Old Fiddlers' Week: 5-10

Numismatic Week (World's Fair of Money): 6-10

National Hobo Week: 8-11

Elvis Week: 9-17

International Tree Climbing Days: 9-11

Perseid Meteor Showers: 9-13

National Motorcycle Week: 11-17

Feeding Pets of the Homeless Week: 11-17

National Resurrect Romance Week:11-17

Weird Contest Week: 11-17

US Amateur Golf Week: 12-18

National Aviation Week: 15-21 

Little League World Series: 15-25

Minority Enterprise Development Week: 18-24

National Chef's Appreciation Week: 18-24 

Chuckwagon Races: 24-9/1

Be Kind To Humankind Week: 25-31

World Water Week: 25-30 

National Composites Week: 26-30 

National Safe at Home Days: 26-30

National Sweet Corn Week: Aug 29- Sep 02

 

 

 

AUGUST 2019 Daily Fun and Wacky Days

 

Aug 01     Thu         Girlfriend's Day

Aug 01     Thu         Earth Over Shoot Day

World Wide Web

World Wide Web

Aug 01     Thu         World Wide Web Day

 

 

Aug 02    Fri           Coloring Book Day

Aug 02    Fri           Homemade Pie

Aug 02    Fri           Ice Cream Sandwich Day

Aug 02    Fri           International Beer Day

Aug 02    Fri           Take a Penny/Leave a Penny Day

 

 

 

Aug 03    Sat           Disc Golf Day

Aug 03    Sat           International Friendship Day

Aug 03    Sat           International hangover Day

Aug 03    Sat           Mustard Day

Aug 03    Sat           Sandcastle Day

Aug 03    Sat           Watermelon Day           

 

Aug 04    Sun         Chocolate Chip Day

Aug 04    Sun   National Friendship Day

Aug 04    Sun         National Sister’s Day

Aug 05    Mon         Doll Day

Aug 05    Mon        Oyster Day

Aug 05    Mon        Psychic Day

Aug 05    Mon        Underwear Day

Aug 05    Mon        Work Like a Dog Day

 

Aug 06    Tue          Fresh Breath Day

Aug 06    Tue          Root Beer Float Day

 

Aug 07    Wed         Lighthouse Day

Aug 07    Wed        Particularly Preposterous Packaging Day

Aug 07    Wed        Professional Speakers Day

 

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Book Lover

Aug 08    Thu         Happiness Happens Day

Aug 08    Thu         International Cat Day

Aug 08    Thu         The Date to Create Day

 

Aug 09    Fri           Book Lovers Day

Aug 09    Fri           Int’l World’s Indigenous People’s Day

Aug 09    Fri           Shop Online for Groceries Day

Aug 09    Fri           Veep Day

 

Aug 10     Sat           Bowling Day

Aug 10     Sat           Lazy Day

Aug 10     Sat           Middle Child Day

Aug 10     Sat           Skyscraper Appreciation Day

Aug 10     Sat           Smithsonian Day

Aug 10     Sat           S’mores Day

Aug 10     Sat           World Lion Day

 

Aug 11     Sun         Hip Hop Day

Aug 11     Sun         Presidential Joke Day

Aug 11     Sun         Son and Daughter Day

 

Aug 12     Mon         Assistance Dog Day

Aug 12     Mon        IBM PC Day

Aug 12     Mon        International Youth Day

Aug 12     Mon        Middle Child Day

Aug 12     Mon        Milkman Day

Aug 12     Mon        Sewing Machine Day

Aug 12     Mon        Vinyl  Record Day

Aug 12     Mon        World Elephant Day

 

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Aug 13     Tue          International Left-Handers Day

 

Aug 14     Wed         Creamsicle Day

Aug 14     Wed        International Rose Day

Aug 14     Wed        Navajo Code Talkers Day

 

Aug 15     Thu         Best Friends Day

Aug 15     Thu         Relaxation Day

 

Aug 16     Fri           Airborne Day

Grooming Day

Grooming Day

Aug 16     Fri           Brothers Day

Aug 16     Fri           Joke Day

Aug 16     Fri           Men’s Grooming Day

Aug 16     Fri           Rollercoaster Day

Aug 16     Fri           Wave at Surveillance Day

 

Aug 17     Sat           Black Cat Appreciation Day

Aug 17     Sat           I Love My Feet Day

Aug 17     Sat           International Geocaching Day

Aug 17     Sat           Meaning of ‘is’ Day

Aug 17     Sat           Thrift Shop Day

Aug 17     Sat           World Honeybee Day

 

Aug 18     Sun         Bad Poetry Day

Aug 18     Sun         Chef Appreciation Day

Aug 18     Sun         Fajita Day

Aug 18     Sun         Mail Order Catalog Day

Aug 18     Sun         Serendipity Day

 

Aug 19     Mon         National Aviation Day

Aug 19     Mon        Cupcake Day

Aug 19     Mon        International Bow Day

Aug 19     Mon        World Humanitarian Day

Aug 19     Mon        World Photo Day

 

Aug 20    Tue          Chocolate Pecan Pie Day

Aug 20    Tue          Radio Day

Aug 20    Tue          World Mosquito Day

 

Aug 21     Wed         Internet Self-Care Day

Aug 21     Wed        Poet’s Day

Aug 21     Wed        Senior Citizen’s Day

Aug 21     Wed        Spumoni Day

 

Aug 22    Thu         Be An Angel Day

Aug 22    Thu         Hoodie Hoo Day

Aug 22    Thu         Southern Hemisphere

Aug 22    Thu         Take Your Cat to the Vet Day

 

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Aug 23    Fri           Remembrance Day of Slave Trade

Aug 23    Fri           Ride Like the Wind Day

Aug 23    Fri           Valentino Day

Aug 23    Fri           World Daffodil Day

 

Aug 24    Sat           International Bat Night

Aug 24    Sat           Knife Day

Aug 24    Sat           Pluto Demoted Day

Aug 24    Sat           Waffle Iron Day

 

Aug 25    Sun         Go Topless Day

Aug 25    Sun         Kiss and Make Up Day

Aug 25    Sun         Second-Hand Wardrobe Day

Aug 25    Sun         Whiskey Sour Day

Aug 26    Mon         National Dog Appreciation Day

Aug 26    Mon        Toilet Paper Day

Aug 26    Mon        Women’s Equality Day

 

Aug 27    Tue          Just Because Day

Aug 27    Tue          The Duchess Who Wasn't Day

 

Aug 28    Wed         Crackers Over The Keyboard Day

Aug 28    Wed        National Bow Tie Day

Aug 28    Wed        Race Your Mouse Around the Icons Day

Aug 28    Wed        Radio Commercials Day

Aug 28    Wed        Tug-of-War Day

 

Aug 29    Thu         According to Hoyle Day

Aug 29    Thu         Individual Rights Day

Aug 29    Thu         More Herbs, Less Salt Day

 

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Aug 30    Fri           Holistic Pet Day

Aug 30    Fri           Int’l Cabernet Sauvignon Day

Aug 30    Fri           National Frankenstein Day

Aug 30    Fri           Toasted Marshmallow Day

 

Aug 31     Sat           Cowgirl Day

Aug 31     Sat           Eat Outside Day

Aug 31     Sat           Franchise Appreciation Day

Aug 31     Sat           International Bacon Day

Aug 31     Sat           Litigating Lawyers Day

Aug 31     Sat           Matchmaker Day

Aug 31     Sat           Pony Express Day

Self Care Making Time For You

 

Making Time For You

by Calvin Harris H.W., M.

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Between the demands of working and bringing home a paycheck, family obligations, paying the bills, social media, and a little time for friends . . . it feels like no time is left for you.

 

As part of Self-Care month, I wanted you to focus on making time for yourself. Self-Care is another way of saying let’s be Healthy. Which is really different from saying let me be selfish.

 

Another idea to consider about Health, is that health is not always maintained from medicines. Medicine suggests you can be relieved of dis-ease, or chemically restore a balance in pursuit of the healthy Body. A healthy lifestyle, I suggest, may take you further than just medicine alone. Consider adding activities and things that contribute to peace of mind, peace in the heart, peace in the soul. And, oh yes, liberal amounts of laughter and love to be applied daily for self-care.

 

To have a healthy lifestyle takes a change in habits, a conscious focus to make time for yourself each day, even if it is only fifteen minutes a day. It is important but, unfortunately, I have seen from clients in my life coaching business time and again it’s something they will let slide or neglect in their busy stressed-out life and wonder why they feel the way they do.

 

When your thoughts are negative or unsupportive of your happiness and success you feel out of balance or dis-eased. You will find that to change your thinking means to stop beating yourself up: instead, redirect your thinking to thoughts that will support your success and happiness. Laugh, if you can, when you think about the time you have spent obsessing over matters that are not happening or have run their course and are completed.

 

Suggestion: Arrange whatever small block of time you can to just stop - and draw back from the fast-paced routine of the day to just be truly with yourself and, if possible, define how you feel, or what you’ve learned or experienced. In those moments with yourself take stock to see how you live, and most importantly what gives you enjoyment. The importance of this exercise is that you are not just letting your life slip away from you.

 

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Self-Care moments exist to counteract living life on autopilot. Use tools like journaling to become more mindful in your day-to-day life. It can take just minutes a day to inspire valuable Habit changes. Two wonderful sources I use and that can get you started in that direction are: First, the book "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen R. Covey, which is a book written on Covey's belief that the way we see the world is entirely based on our own perceptions. And the second is by a company called Vertellis, who has put out an actual journaling formatted book called Vertellis Chapters Journal. I highly recommend both for anyone looking to draw out of themselves and refresh their perspective on how they view the world and are living their lives in it. This is also preparation for those who choose to move their life forward. (Unsurprisingly, this forward movement comes with a feeling of living in gratitude and to have no regrets.)

 

Over the next 7 to 10 years, the world will look a whole lot different. “AI” Technology will see to that! Computer monitors and other screen-time activities will obliterate “quality”-self-time and instill the mantra “staying busy is more important than self-reflection." Unfortunately, this can create less understanding of oneself and the ability one has for crucial thinking and coping with change in a healthy manner. So, my mission is to facilitate meaningful habit changes with Life Coaching and encouraging self-dialog through Journaling and small group activities. I liken Journaling to going through a maze or Labyrinth of your mind, giving you an outlet for self-reflection and development.

 

Encouraging these offline moments increases space for self-reflection and can spark sincere conversations with yourself and people you care about to inspire a wholeness within you, through reflection, and self-awareness for a happier, satisfying and more meaningful life.

 

A satisfying life is what I call a successful life. It goes against conventional thinking, but the word successful, in its normal sense of the word usually is the measure of “other people’s criteria" or standards, not by what the individual creates as criteria for themselves. Flip that around with the use of the word Satisfaction: Now, you see, that is measured, and criteria of your own mind, heart, and efforts are in play.

 

Routine Daily habits of journaling will allow you to identify your greatest hopes, fears, and dreams, to process that information before you go into a situation that truly matters to you; to learn and name what could hold you back from exploring your innate creativity; to find the nature of what holds you in its grip such as “you’re scared of being disliked”, or “people don’t hear your voice”, or “ fear of letting other people down” –etc., etc. The practice of pinpointing your emotional state is what psychologists call emotional granularity. It is suggested that people who exhibit greater emotional granularity regulate their feelings better and have a greater sense of satisfaction regarding appropriate responses in stressful situations.

 

Making time for yourself, with daily Journaling, is Self Care that helps you speak to and act with greater control of your interactions, rather than pushing emotions down and numbing yourself to life or being tossed around like salad when stressful situations hit.

 

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To sum up, having a healthy lifestyle takes a change in habits, creating a routine that makes time for yourself – operating in mind, heart, and soul, to consciously focus each day. This type of Self Care gives you the opportunity to see yourself as Conscious mind, the ability to think, "to create and govern thought" and as the vehicle to create your reality.

 

To investigate this idea further go to https://www.theprosperos.com/  There you will find audio lessons for individual and community group learning.

 

For Life-Coaching contact Calvin: ialchemy1@gmail.com